Welcome!
Yep, stick to the tried and tested. At the time I kicked things off, Damien was working on the E46 Goose and fitting the Gen 1 Leaf stack and at the early stages of testing the VCU so take a look around the projects and see what fits the bill.
Work out first what kind of drive train are you going for. Motor hooked up to the existing gearbox - custom coupler fabrication - or sticking with the Leaf reduction gear and getting the custom shafts made. Depends what you are capable of or willing to get fab'd up and the associated cost but as you have seen from Damien, myself and many others, DIY can be pretty successful
Dont pass up looking at the Prius transaxle and inverter options. You can get the hardware so cheap now, it's a no brainer! The amount of work gone into the VCU's is amazing too. Massive amount of backup from the community if you need it. For build #2, I'm going the Lexus/Toyota hardware for sure. The Gen 3 inverter ticks so many boxes, it's hard to pass it up as a solution on a budget.
I'm right there with you on the coding! Man, it took me a while.... and It's still elusive

I do have plans to grab CAN by the scruff and from talking to others on here, it's not as scary as you think... I'll report back
Good luck on the build and make sure to post up plenty of info on the Projects area.